7 Things The Hard Times Teach You
By BRIANNA WIEST
1. What really matters. If the most difficult challenges teach you anything, it’s what really matters to you. Pain will show you what is so deeply embedded in your heart and soul that your whole life is uprooted when those things aren’t okay anymore. Pain will show you what really matters because you won’t suffer for anything you don’t care about. It’s kind of like the idea that the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. When you’re really angry, depressed, upset, or what have you, it’s because of something or someone you love, in some way, at some level.
2. Who you really are, because struggle doesn’t make you who you are as much as it tends to reveal who you are. When you’re truly in a state of desperation to fix something, your real self will start to emerge out of necessity. Pay attention to this. There are great lessons to be learned from seeing what you do and who you are in the most trying times.
3. That the concept of hope may be the single greatest thing we have to work with. It may not always be there, and it may not be the easiest thing to see when you’re really stuck. But when you stumble upon the realization that there is potential for your life to change, and that things can look up, get better, or be fixed, there’s nothing more relieving or miraculous at that moment.
4. That seeking help (whether professional or not) is not for the weak, and it shouldn’t be given that stigma. If you have ever felt (or still feel) like you’re walking around with a cement block on your chest or you don’t know how you’ll get out of bed and through the day, you start to understand how much courage it takes to admit that you need help and to be humble enough to go out and be open to receiving it. Free yourself from the idea that needing help, or even needing to cry, is a sign of weakness.
5. How important loving yourself is. There are few negative situations in life that aren’t somehow derived from a lack of love for yourself. (You’re probably thinking… how will ‘loving myself’ cure my disease? How will ‘loving myself’ help me deal with my broken heart?) Loving yourself means you care enough about your life to seek treatment and pursue it until you’ve done all you can do to heal yourself. It means that although you are absolutely broken over the fact that the person you love doesn’t love you, you know that you’re not any less worthy or less able to love again, if that’s what you choose to do. Loving yourself means accepting yourself, and knowing that you don’t need everybody’s approval.
6. That everything in life is fleeting, and at the end of the day, the greatest resurrections come from the most brutal crucifixions. Your pain will not last forever, and often, you’ll be surprised by what comes after a period of suffering.
7. Who really loves you. You can be damn sure that the people who are there for you when you most need help are the ones that really do love you. It’s easy to love someone when they’re happy and breezing through life. It’s more difficult when that person is so stuck in pain they barely have any love to give. Please remember that the people who really, truly, unconditionally love you, will still have love to give to you, even if you’re temporarily unable to give it back.
if only human can grow more mature overnight and learn to deal with things better. that will never happen. so lets keep striving and learning.